As for my thoughts, I'm in agreement with every single person who says that Ray Boltz and his family are in need of all of our prayers. This can't be an easy time for any of them.
Do I personally agree with Boltz's decision to live “a normal gay life?” No more so than I agree with someone who chooses to have an "open marriage" because they don't believe that monogamy is for them or with someone who cheats on their spouse. I may well come out of this being accused of being too old-fashioned, but I believe that it's supposed to be one man and one woman in a relationship.
Do I agree with Ray's belief that he was born gay because God made him that way so he has no choice? No again. I come from alcoholics on both sides of my family and because of that I'm supposed to be pre-disposed to have problems with alcohol. Genetically pre-disposed or not, I remember all too well being a child and seeing the havoc that alcohol can wreck on a family so I chose early on to never let alcohol control me. Period. I tried it and found rather quickly that I could out-drink most other people but the risk and the memories were there so if I have a glass of wine after dinner I stop after that one glass and it's very rare that I even go so far as to have anything alcoholic at all. My choice overrules my genetics and I choose not to live up to my genetic potential.
Yet I will not sit here and condemn Ray Boltz or say that the 30 years he spent in music ministry means nothing anymore because he made a choice that I don't agree with. I am not without sin, so I am in no position to cast the first stone. That's what can be said of all of us. None of us, no not one, is without some sort of sin in our lives.
I don't believe that any of us should turn our backs on Ray Boltz (or any other homosexual person) because to me, that goes against the very grain of Jesus telling us that we should love our neighbors as ourselves. Way too frequently I see Christians turning on those who have a spotlight turned on the sin in their lives. It's almost as if it makes us feel better about our own "little sins" if we see someone who has a sin that we perceive as being "worse" than our own. But doesn't all sin separate us from God? Didn't Jesus die on the cross for all of our sins? Aren't we really defeating the purpose of sharing our Lord and Savior when we're beating someone over the head with hatred and using the bible as the weapon of choice to do it?
The bottom line here (for me anyway) is that Ray Boltz is still my brother in Christ. My thoughts and opinions on his lifestyle choice are just that ... my thoughts and my opinions. On judgment day I don't believe that God will be asking me what my opinions are on anyone's choices. Ultimately, each one of us will answer for our own choices on that day ... from the big ones to the small ones ... each and every step of our walk. I'm going to continue to pray for Ray and his family, as I do for any Christian in the news spotlight that comes across my desk.
If you're not sure what to think or do, then remember these words ...
Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.